Well, as I said I already have the Sony Blu-ray player which we picked up last Christmas for a pretty reasonable price. I had been reading about making Blu-ray compatible standard DVDs and tried several times unsuccessfully. My mistake was trying to make an actual Blu-ray!
I found out that Blu-ray players must include three codecs; in addition to the Blu-ray codec they must support Microsoft's VC-1 and the AVCHD MPEG-4 h.264 codec. Blu-ray may actually read from a disk at as much as 54 Mb/s which the standard DVD can't do. My early disks would play for a moment, pause, play for a moment, pause, and so on. The breakthrough came when I quit trying to make a Blu-ray disk and made an AVCHD disk. All newer players will have AVCHD on the front.
My first attempt was to add an 8 minute .m2t file to Nero Vision and select to burn to a regular DVD. It plays beautifully on the Blu-ray player! I read that regular DVD media will limit you to about 20 minutes without additional compression and some folks say they put as much as 40 minutes on a disk without problem. I have not tried anything more than 8 minutes yet. 20 to 40 minutes is plenty for home video and will placate me until the cost of Blu-ray burners and media come down. This means we home movie makers finally have a low cost way to distribute our videos.